Start Fresh
Stopping What I’ve Started
Imagine that you are cruising down the road in a new convertible, the music blaring and the wind blowing through your hair. The ride is exhilarating; you feel free and uninhibited. All around there are interesting things and people to look at. Everything seems shiny and new, the people are all happy and friendly, and you are enjoying your new adventure.
As you drive along, the scenery begins to change. You approach a part of the city that is a little less attractive, less inviting. The people look a little less happy, and a little less friendly. The streets are darker, and the buildings are falling into disrepair.
You realize that you have gone into a dangerous section of town. Do you keep driving? No. When you realize this is not where you want to be, you turn your car around and head in the opposite direction.
Life choices are the same way. Experimenting with alcohol or drugs, or becoming sexually active, can at first be exciting and fun. It may (seem to) make you more popular, and you may feel more free or even more grown up. But as time goes on, and the effects become more apparent, you realize it isn’t all it was cracked up to be.
Sex that was supposed to bring you closer ended the relationship instead. The thrill of sexual pleasure was a high that was short-lived; more time is spent arguing, feeling guilty, wondering if the other person is being faithful or means what he/she says. You are worried every time your period is late that you might be pregnant. You are afraid that something might be wrong, and wonder if you should get tested for an STI.
Do you have to stay that way? No! It is time for a You-turn! The choice to be abstinent is one that you can make at any time. It is not determined by your past. It’s a decision that you make in the present for your future.
How do you make a You-turn? First, you need to make a conscious decision about where you are and where you want to go. Deciding to practice abstinence is a key first step. Write down your decision, and the reasons you are making it. If possible, find a friend who will share your decision and make the pledge with you. This should be someone who will support and encourage you, and challenge you if you start to go back on it.
Don’t be discouraged if it is difficult at first, or if you make mistakes. If at times you fail, make note of what led up to your mistake, and seek to avoid those situations and sources of temptation in the future. Don’t dwell on the difficulties, but focus on the future and what you are waiting for. As time goes on, you will find yourself on the road to true freedom! It will be challenging, but YES You Can! experience the true love and freedom that you desire and deserve.